Marriage Counseling Lynchburg: Stop That Downward Spiral…
One has to be able to distinguish between the content of a conflict – what people are fighting about – and the process by which it is handled – how people are communicating, problem-solving, and acting with one another. It is almost always a breakdown in the process that makes a conflict unmanageable. If partners are verbally attacking, withdrawing and cutting off communication, misunderstanding, or invalidating one another, progress cannot be made. How many times have you knowingly entered into a conflict with your spouse when you already knew how badly it would end? You knew what you would say, you knew what your spouse would say, you knew how you would feel, you knew how your spouse would feel, and you even knew how it would end. Yet you entered in anyway. How frustrating. Couples get caught in a downward spiral of defensive reaction and negativity that feels gut-wrenching and out of control. The pattern is “circular” in that there is no real beginning or end to the cycle, and partners are reacting to one another in ways that actually reinforce their partner’s undesirable behavior! Marriage Counseling Lynchburg teaches you how to change all that.
Recently a local business owner gave a good word picture to us. He said, “You know, I’m a professional at what I do, and I do a good job. If I need my car repaired, I take it to someone that is proficient in that area. If I have plumbing issues in my home, I call a top notch plumber. My wife and I just continued to struggle in our relationship, despite our best efforts. I didn’t learn how to do this right from my own dad and I don’t have the relationship with my father-in-law to learn it from him either. I just didn’t know what to do. Thus so, I thought it a good idea to call in a professional to help us with the most important thing in our lives…our marriage…at least that’s how I look at it.”
A good counselor can help couples gain clarity about their interactions and break these painful cycles. When partners understand the impact they are having on one another they are then in a position to consider change. Being cared about, and being understood and respected in the communication process sets the stage for effective collaboration and problem-management. With hard work even very difficult issues may be overcome. Marriage Counseling Lynchburg helps you to bring the change you’ve been waiting for.
Marriage Counseling Lynchburg: Different Formats…
Right away, in the first session, we join with the couple to bring stability to the relationship. This stability is obtained much more quickly if the couple opts for the 90 minute sessions as opposed to the traditional 45 minute sessions. After this, education will be provided regarding the ingredients that must be present in order for a relationship to thrive. The educational process will also focus upon the ingredients that will make a marriage simply survive or die. Following this, the process of problem management will begin as you are shown how to rebuild or achieve emotional and relational intimacy. Marriage Counseling Lynchburg brings about connection.
Research shows that greater intensity helps people get better, faster, and that it is less expensive in the long run. That has been our experience as well. Thus, so, if at all possible, we recommend that you schedule a Full Intensive, or lat least 90 minute sessions versus the traditional 45 minute sessions. Chuck begins all new clients with a 1 or 2 day intensive. Marriage Counseling Lynchburg helps you to get on the road to feeling good. Please check our rates page for cost.